Though Alan complained about Matthew’s avoidance, he was stuck in a pattern of unhelpful behavior too—with a large amount of internalized homophobia about being gay. He blamed his difficulties on the closet and on living in Michigan, and he resented Matthew for not participating more actively in their relationship.

But what about what he was doing to his wife? He did not want to hurt her by all this cheating. Together we discovered that to gain a sense of masculinity and triumph over his pain he had to do it in secret and hiding. This was not about his wife. He would most likely have acted on this with any women he was involved with.

I figured I was different, but I didn’t know what to do about it. I didn’t think there was anything legitimate that could ever relieve my cheerlessness. I always thought psychiatry was for crazy people, and the only way to feel better was to pick myself up by my bootstraps and do something on my own to alleviate my sadness.

14. Exhibitionists: These are men who enjoy being looked at by both men and women as long as they are being admired for their bodies. Many are body builders and muscular and enjoy the homo-erotic attention of gay men and might even flirt with gay men to encourage more admiration.

The Fifth Chakra or traditionally known as the Vishudda is a Kundilani system that involves the individual's speech and listening abilities. It also involves the smooth reciprocation of speech and sound. The body's "Vibratory Energy" serves as the basic domain of speech and sound. Individuals with the strongest vibratory energy are believed to have the most powerful Vishudda. Among these individuals includes composer Ludwig Van Beethoven, the great Martin Luther King, Jr. and US President Barack Obama. The power of the Fifth Chakra goes beyond the person's ordinary speaking or hearing abilities.

That brings us to opt-out provisions in California law. The very fact that Anti-Proposition 8 folks cite the opt-out provision should be a wake-up call that gay marriage will be taught and they know it. Otherwise, why bring up opt-out provisions?

Generally a person's religion is largely a factor of where they were born, or where their ancestral family was born, rather than a conscious choice that they made themselves.

Can you suggest any of your books or any others that might help us on this pathway that is new to both of us. We feel we have a solid begining and a hopeful future. Before I order your book on Gay Relationships, will it help us deal with the generational aspect? I would be grateful for any recommended materials you might suggest.